A Discouraging Statistic
Most couples wait on average seven years before reaching out for therapy. This is one* of the reasons why couples therapy has lower success rates that other forms of therapy. By the time couples reach out, the hurt and anger are big. Sometimes people have lost hope. Some couples only decide to go to therapy when they feel the relationship is already over and they want to be able to say they’ve. Tried. Every. Thing. Sometimes one partner is willing to try therapy and the other one is not.
Emotionally Focused Therapy as explained by the founder, Dr. Sue Johnson
HOLD ME TIGHT Article by Dr. Sue Johnson originally published in Psychology Today I grew up in my parents' pub in England, where there was always a lot of drama. And all the drama—fights, flirting, tears, tantrums—revolved around love. I also watched...
“There’s Going To Be Some Changes Around Here!”
Have you ever said this about your home? My clients tend to say this about expectations and routines for their kids around any change of season: at the beginning of summer vacation, the start of a new school year, or even heading into spring break. At these times...
You know that feeling?
That feeling at the end of the day. Probably a long day where you had to say, “Hurry up!” and “Let’s go!” and repeat simple commands over and over again until you finally had to say it in a ‘mean’ voice that made your little one cry and then they still weren’t...
Why See An MFT?
Marriage and Family therapists study relationships. We view couples and families as a system of interconnecting people. Like the gears in the picture above, each person in a relationship affects the others. Once we start turning in one direction it can be very hard to...
Reunited And It Feels So… Similar
Sometimes relationships benefit from a break. Sometimes after couples split up they realize they don’t want to be apart. But after the hearts-and-flowers phase of reunification fades, couples are often left with the same patterns and problems that lead them to break...
Is It OK To Depend On Your Partner?
Have you ever wondered, in the midst of your relationship, if you are too dependent on your partner? What if your loved one makes you happier when they are around? What if you miss them when they are gone? What if they are the first person you seek with both good and...
Feeling Stuck?
Does it seem like you and your partner have the same fight over and over again? Socks on the floor, spending habits, where you’ll celebrate Thanksgiving this year… these fights tend to repeat themselves. John Gottman, the world’s foremost marriage researcher, can tell...
When Is The Right Time To Go To Couples Counseling?
The right time is right now. If either partner is considering counseling… If either partner is wishing the relationship could be better… If either or both partners are feeling unsatisfied or unheard or unhappy, the time for counseling is now. Why now?...
Why Family Therapy?
If your kid is the one with the problem why would you, the parent, come to therapy? Because you are the most important person in your kid’s life. I know, I know if you’re constantly fighting with your teenager or resisting the urge to scream at your little kid you...