Why See An MFT?

MFT = Marriage and Family Therapist

Marriage and Family therapists study relationships.

We view couples and families as a system of interconnecting people. Like the gears in the picture above, each person in a relationship affects the others. Once we start turning in one direction it can be very hard to make a change when all the other gears are still moving in the same direction. This is true for couple and families. Often even when one person makes a positive change, it can affect the whole system in a way that make take some adjustments.

Marriage and Family therapists are uniquely skilled to work with more than one person in the room. We believe most problems happen between or among people rather than viewing problems within or part of individuals. We do not ‘referee’ or make a judgment on who is right and who is wrong. We help make sure each person is heard and understood. We know there are no ‘bad’ people just bad patterns that we can get stuck in when we have unmet needs or unacknowledged emotions. We know that boundaries are important and figuring our healthy boundaries can be very, very challenging.

So if you find yourself grinding your gears in your relationship, contact me to discuss how we can get things running smoothly again.