We utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy. To learn more about EFT, please click on the links below.

PREVENTION We tell couples to treat their relationship like their first child. When your first baby coughs funny or spikes a fever you immediately call the doctor. What if you sought support for your relationship at the first sign of trouble? Most couples wait too long before seeking counseling, meaning there’s more heavy lifting to do once you get there. Just like you’d rather treat a cold than wait for it to develop into pneumonia, come work on your relationship while there’s still good to build on. We help couples improve communication, hear each other, and stop having the same old fight on repeat.

RECONNECT Has romance and affection fallen to the bottom of a long to-do list in the craziness of life? Can’t remember the last time you had a discussion with your partner that wasn’t about logistics? We can help you recapture the sparks of your early relationship and see each other as whole, desirable people again.

REKINDLE Has your sex life always felt fraught? Or perhaps sex was hot and satisfying in the beginning of your relationship and now its nonexistent. Do you wonder if perhaps you and your partner are just too different when it comes to desire? We help individuals and couples examine why sex is complicated, learn to communicate clearly, and I can help you create the sex life you’ve always wanted.

HEAL and REPAIR Perhaps there's so much distance between you and your partner that you’re not sure that you can make your way back or that you even want to. It may no longer feel safe to talk about your pain or no longer worth the effort. After a while it can seem like maybe you just married a total jerk. We help create a safe environment in which both of you can discuss the problems, hear each other in a new ways, discover where things went wrong and begin to turn back towards each other. We help you see the underlying reason you grew apart and help you come back together with a new understanding, commitment, and joy.

DISCERNMENT For couples who feel stuck in their relationships. We provide a supportive third party to help you decide if it’s best to work through your difficulties or choose to end your relationship. We help you to mindfully and intentionally move forward with your decision.

PRE-COMMITMENT / PREMARITAL PREPARATION. Let’s make your wedding day or commitment even more exciting by helping you both get really clear on the beautiful life you are creating together. We work with couples to make sure you’ve talked about the important things and learned how to effectively communicate when new stuff comes up.

Resources

Taming the Cycle video about EFT

Hold Me Tight article by founder of EFT

Should you go to couples therapy? article

The Gottman Institute blog with helpful resources for couples

The Institute for Relational Intimacy blog with resources about sex, intimacy, and body image issues

Come As You Are podcast by Dr. Emily Nagoski about sexual wellbeing and pleasure. Also the title of her highly recommended book.

We offer free, 20 minute, online consultations.